Accepting online therapy clients from the Orchard Park/Buffalo area and throughout New York State. In person therapy available in Rochester, NY.

Marriage and Couples Counseling​

Are you feeling unfulfilled in your relationship or marriage?

Are you tired of having the same fights over and over again with no resolution? Is everything in your lives taking priority over your relationship? Has a betrayal rocked your relationship and made you question everything you once thought you knew about your partner?

Struggling with your partner is despairing and exhausting.

There are a myriad of reasons why a couple may seek marriage therapy. Communication problems, conflicts about child rearing, financial stressors, healing from infidelity, divorce and remarriage, sexual incompatibility, anger, healing from addictions, etc. Because we spend so much time with one person, it can be very helpful to have a compassionate yet neutral third party to help guide you through issues that may find you stuck.

Marriage therapy or couples counseling is designed to help you work through relationship or communication problems and create emotional closeness. I help couples understand and respond to the emotional needs of each partner, develop healthier means of relating, learn tools to negotiate differences, problem solve, and work through conflict in a healthier way to gain and maintain a deeper level of intimacy and closeness.

Through marriage counseling/couples counseling, you can expect to change ineffective communication patterns as well as enhance and restore respect and trust in your relationship. No matter what level of distress you are feeling, couples counseling or marriage therapy can help you move forward.

You came to the right place for marital/relationship support.

I am experienced, person-centered in my approach, and I aim to provide a compassionate, safe and neutral space for both partners. I have a passion for working with couples through all stages of their journey. Marriage counseling helps bring relationships to life and enhances couples’ understanding of each other.

Marriage counseling or couples counseling can help with the following issues:

  • Communication 
  • Trust and jealousy concerns
  • Recovery from infidelity; physical, emotional and internet-based
  • Negotiation of differing parenting styles
  • Stress management 
  • Intimacy issues
  • Managing in-laws
  • Childrearing with positive reinforcement
  • Premarital conflict
  • Coping with family loss and chronic conditions, like dementia or cancer
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Abuse from past relationships (physical, sexual, and/or emotional)
  • General stagnation or complacency in the relationship

How do I prepare for my first session of marriage counseling?

First, reflect on your goals: Take time to think about what you want to achieve through counseling. Are you hoping to improve communication with your partner, resolve conflicts, or strengthen your relationship? Having a clear idea of your goals will help us better focus on what is most important to you. 
Next, discuss your expectations with your partner. Before your first session, have an open and honest discussion with your partner about your expectations for marriage counseling/couples counseling. Make sure you are both on the same page about what you hope to achieve and what you are willing to put into therapy.
Be open and honest. Be prepared to listen. And be patient and committed to the process. 

What if I want marriage counseling but my spouse or partner is unwilling to come?

The first step is to come by yourself for an individual session. In this session, we can talk about your marital issues and discuss your options for counseling with your spouse/partner. it is not uncommon for a partner to join in on the sessions at a late time. However, even if he/she refuses to come, you can still change the dynamics of the relationship by making changes in the way you respond and react to your partner. Thus, you will bring about changes in the relationship by addressing your own issues and making personal progress.

Relationships are central to the human experience. They fulfill our deepest needs for connection, companionship and even survival. They are often the source of great joy, as well as personal learning and growth. However, we don’t all have positive human relationships, and this is where mental health therapists and relationship experts can help.

I have the skills and expertise to help you repair your strong bond, develop communication that connects, and build transformative understanding for yourselves and each other. My approach is person-centered, collaborative, and leads to positive changes that stick.

Ready to Get Started?

Premarriage or premarital counseling can help dating or engaged partners understand their differences and resolve differences before marriage so they can have the tools to create a happy and healthy marriage from the start.

Contact me today at (585) 615-6985 for a free initial phone consultation.