Think about the last time you were on an airplane. Remember that spiel about oxygen masks? The flight attendant gives a safety demonstration on what to do if the oxygen masks drop. “If there is a drop in cabin pressure, oxygen masks will drop down in front of you. … Be sure to secure yours before you help anyone else.” If you put the mask on your child or neighbor first, you could potentially pass out before you are able to put on your own mask. What if you translated this example into your day-to-day life? What would that kind of self-love look like exactly?
Making your well-being a priority is not about being selfish. It is about putting yourself first so that you are better equipped to help others and gracefully handle what the day brings. It is about loving yourself so that you can offer more love to the community around you.
Valentine’s Day gives us an amazing opportunity to focus on loving and honoring ourselves, to give thanks for everything that we’ve done, everything that we are blessed to have, and all that we are able to do. Whether you’re coupled up or flying solo this year, there’s no better time than the month of love to show yourself some TLC. Here are some ideas for treating yourself like the VIP Valentine that you are:
- Buy yourself fresh flowers.
- Take a long, relaxing bath.
- Clean your house or apartment.
- Watch your favorite movie. Even if it’s for the 20th time.
- Make yourself breakfast in bed.
- Repeat the following mantra, “I love and accept myself.”
- Have a mini pamper session.
- Make a list of fun activities to do and post on your fridge.
- Go for a run or a long walk.
- Start the day with two minutes of meditation.
- Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive.
- Dress your body lovingly in a gorgeous outfit.
- Do something for the first time.
- Throw your favorite jammies in the dryer for a few minutes so they’re nice and warm and put them on as soon as you come home from work.
- Listen to music. Just close your eyes and listen.
- Read a good book.
- Buy something you’ve always wanted.
- Make a list of all the things you like about yourself.
- Set the mood while cooking — candles lit, music on.
- Give yourself a manicure.
- Plan a fun weekend for yourself and your partner/friends/family.
- Write down 10 things you feel grateful for.
- Get your sweat on.
- Write yourself a love letter.
- When you grocery shop say, “I am choosing this for my body because I love her.”
- Give yourself a massage with beautifully scented lotion.
- Do something creative.
- Stand up straight and tall.
- Try a new, healthy recipe.
- Take a nap.
- Call your mom and tell her you love her (or your dad, sister, etc.).
- Oxygenate by taking three deep breaths.
- Put on some music and dance away.
- Commit to doing your hair and makeup for a week.
- Play video games.
- Allow yourself to have that piece of chocolate and savor every minute.
- Plan an adventure.
- Shut off your email and cellphone for an hour.
- Use scented candles or diffuse essential oils.
- Complete that project or goal you started.
- Play board games with friends or family.
- Give yourself a day off.
- Self-love mantra: “I am enough. I have enough. I do enough.”
- Wear your favorite perfume.
- Cuddle with your pet. Or with your human.
- Watch a stand-up comedy show.
- Host a dinner party.
- Hire a coach or a counselor.
Have a wonderful, love filled and self-love filled Valentine’s Day! Be good to yourself, and if you feel you need more support, contact me, email me, or call me at (585) 615-6985 for a free initial phone consultation.
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